Love is everywhere. I have experienced it. So is hatred and indifference. It’s what we choose to see that makes the difference. Opposite of love is not hatred, cause even in hatred you have to be attached to that person to hate him/her that much. Opposite of love then, is ‘indifference’. The neutrality or detachment of it makes it even more brutal.
But the question in my mind is, what is ‘love’ anyways!
Define love. One of the most difficult questions to encounter. Love is giving (ahem... the most shallow description ever. If it ain’t selfish, it ain’t love), Love is this overwhelming longing (overwhelming I agree, but longing, not necessarily), Love is when you can't live without someone (Nah, I have seen more than a few cases when love is just letting go [forced or otherwise]), Love is freedom (sounds interesting, but I have my reservations on that. Freedom is not the prerogative of love or vice-versa), Love is when 2 people fit into each other’s lives like 2 pieces of a jigsaw puzzle (Oh yeah, grow up, to all those people who believe this, there is a lot of adjustment, compromise and acceptance when love does mature. And sometimes people do ‘fit in’ fabulously in each other’s lives but there is just no love). Love is habit (wouldn’t have disagreed more. If your love is a habit then I suggest you get over it as soon as possible. Cause this love then is without substance). So what is love actually?
Love is an amalgamation of a lot of different feelings. Care & Concern – it binds you by getting you involved in the other person’s life, Physical attraction – we are humans at the end of it. If this ain’t there it is just Care & Concern. Identification – one needs to see a part or whole of one’s self in the other person. This is what makes you relate to another person. Yeah I have seen 2 completely different people fall in love. The identification then lies in the contradiction. Appreciation – if you can’t appreciate the other person in some way or the other, then it isn’t love, it’s just pity/sympathy/empathy. These are the feelings I have identified till now. Am sure there are many more. I am in the process of figuring it out myself.
More often than not, relationships are based on 1 of the above feelings more that the others. Sometimes it’s just plain physical attraction, sometimes a high level of appreciation bordering towards being ‘smitten’... Sometimes there is high degree of identification... resulting in finding someone exactly like u... but then... do these last? I don’t know. I guess ‘love’ has to be a mixture of all the above...
What is love if it binds you or strips you off your freedom? But then again, what is love if it just doesn’t bind you or alter your freedom in some way. Love makes you responsible of/about somebody, love makes you do or not make you do certain things for somebody. The beauty of it lies in this contradiction.
People change in love. People grow in love. People are ruined in love and then again people ruin love itself. Love is what you make of it and what it makes of you.
Special Recommendation: Please do see this movie ‘Love Actually’. It’s fantastic and it comes closest to what, I believe, love actually is...
But the question in my mind is, what is ‘love’ anyways!
Define love. One of the most difficult questions to encounter. Love is giving (ahem... the most shallow description ever. If it ain’t selfish, it ain’t love), Love is this overwhelming longing (overwhelming I agree, but longing, not necessarily), Love is when you can't live without someone (Nah, I have seen more than a few cases when love is just letting go [forced or otherwise]), Love is freedom (sounds interesting, but I have my reservations on that. Freedom is not the prerogative of love or vice-versa), Love is when 2 people fit into each other’s lives like 2 pieces of a jigsaw puzzle (Oh yeah, grow up, to all those people who believe this, there is a lot of adjustment, compromise and acceptance when love does mature. And sometimes people do ‘fit in’ fabulously in each other’s lives but there is just no love). Love is habit (wouldn’t have disagreed more. If your love is a habit then I suggest you get over it as soon as possible. Cause this love then is without substance). So what is love actually?
Love is an amalgamation of a lot of different feelings. Care & Concern – it binds you by getting you involved in the other person’s life, Physical attraction – we are humans at the end of it. If this ain’t there it is just Care & Concern. Identification – one needs to see a part or whole of one’s self in the other person. This is what makes you relate to another person. Yeah I have seen 2 completely different people fall in love. The identification then lies in the contradiction. Appreciation – if you can’t appreciate the other person in some way or the other, then it isn’t love, it’s just pity/sympathy/empathy. These are the feelings I have identified till now. Am sure there are many more. I am in the process of figuring it out myself.
More often than not, relationships are based on 1 of the above feelings more that the others. Sometimes it’s just plain physical attraction, sometimes a high level of appreciation bordering towards being ‘smitten’... Sometimes there is high degree of identification... resulting in finding someone exactly like u... but then... do these last? I don’t know. I guess ‘love’ has to be a mixture of all the above...
What is love if it binds you or strips you off your freedom? But then again, what is love if it just doesn’t bind you or alter your freedom in some way. Love makes you responsible of/about somebody, love makes you do or not make you do certain things for somebody. The beauty of it lies in this contradiction.
People change in love. People grow in love. People are ruined in love and then again people ruin love itself. Love is what you make of it and what it makes of you.
Special Recommendation: Please do see this movie ‘Love Actually’. It’s fantastic and it comes closest to what, I believe, love actually is...
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